Sexual anorexia - another childhood trauma

Believe it or not thier is such a thing, people who though attracted to thier partner seeks to deprive themselves of intimacy because of childhood wounds due to actions of either mother, father or both.
   This condition can occur with a distant parent especially the opposing gender parent. The individual can feel the other gender is unsafe or going to hurt them, so to protect themselves they take control of thier sexual action.  Many times not even realizing they are doing it. Individuals suffering from this condition don't understand why they are doing these things, or sometimes even that they are doing it, leaving the spouse feeling that they've done something wrong, thier partner is not attracted to them, or possibly could be cheating. Seeing as this condition is caused by childhood vectors, the spouse is not only not at fault but other than thier emotional support and patience, the actual work has to be done by the injured individual.
    Many times along with therepy to learn the cause of the condition, the solution is putting together a contract clearly indicating the needs of both partners, which includes a schedule of the when's and what's of sexual activity, opening the pathways to communication, and feelings of safety by the person suffering from the disorder.
   I share this information because often times I hear people talk about how childhood events and divorce, or the lack of divorce growing up in a hostile household can lead to many relationship issues, and the lack of understanding of how to behave as an adult.  How do you behave like a man, a husband, and a father if you've never seen what a good example of one is?  Can you learn to serf if you've never seen it done by someone whose knowledgable, and skillfully practiced in surfing?  Yes! But your going to make mistakes, and potentially get severely hurt.  It's also likely your going to hurt someone else in the water if you don't know what your doing.
   Here is yet another problem which is created which many people are totally unaware of.  Especially
men who's testosterone drops as you get older, if your having these kinds of issues talk to your doctor, there may be more going on than your aware of, decrease in libido can be caused by diabetes, high blood pressure, different medications, basicly a lot of things.

Just a note if there is any inaccuracy here it is totally my fault, I'm not a medical doctor,  just trying to bring information to people which they may not be aware of, I am quite familier with many problems which can occur due to childhood events, I had never even heard of sexual anorexia, so please look into it if these sound like things going on in your life.  This class on human sexuality has been very interesting.