Candle which burns twice as strong

Burns half as long, interesting concept, similar to the unexamined life is not worth living. But is it true. Life is to short, and the reality is it could be gone, we do need to live each day like it might be our last, and love and appreciate those in our lives. Yet there are consequences to that lifestyle, which can compromise relationships, jobs, almost anything if value. Yet value itself is an arbitrary thing, some place a higher price, where to another it's toxic. Speaking from personal experience, I've left a lot of pain in my past, even after the last decade plus, many don't trust, or can't forgive what has even done, and I hold no blame to them, it was my actions which created the situation in the first place. The thing is in reality leapirds can change there spots, abused victims are not condemned to be abusers, once you've recognized the issue and take the appropriate steps, put in the necessary work, you can change. It takes time, energy, effort, and the absolute desire to not go back to where you came from. But as long as you always remember and remind yourself you know where that road goes it's not hard to avoid it. Ok maybe not hard isn't te right choice of words, but you don't have to eep making the same mistakes. Honestly once you've started fixing the damage in yourself, you despise who you were as much as anyone, and the pain you caused sits like a dagger in your spine, but you have to move on. Anyway I may update this in the future, but for now I'm leaving it here, this topic stirs up a lot of painful memories, so until the next meeting be well.